
1922–1973 · Parenting
Haim Ginott
“When a child is drowning is not the time to teach him to swim.”
Israeli-American clinical psychologist and child therapist whose Between Parent and Child (1965) quietly changed how millions of parents speak to their children. Born in Tel Aviv, trained at Columbia, he taught that the relationship is built — or broken — sentence by sentence. He insisted that feelings deserve to be acknowledged before behavior is corrected, that words can be small daggers or small medicines, and that a parent's job is to be both warm and firm without being harsh. His work directly shaped Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (How to Talk So Kids Will Listen) and the entire modern vocabulary of emotion-coaching.
Known for
- Communication
- Acknowledging feelings
- Respectful limits
- Repair
Best for
- Tantrums
- Power struggles
- Sibling conflict
- Teen conversations
Their signature question
“What is the feeling underneath the behavior — and have you said it out loud?”